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    • ISBN:9781472142825
    • Publication date:10 Jan 2019

How to Keep People From Pushing Your Buttons

By Albert Ellis and Arthur Lange

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CLASSIC SELF-HELP FROM A RESPECTED PIONEER OF PSYCHOTHERAPY

Life can get tough. From unemployment-or overwork-to divorce or remarriage, the challenges of newly blended families, not to mention everyday hassles, stress can feel non-stop. To top it off, technology confronts us with a barrage of seemingly urgent tasks 24/7. It's no wonder things and people can make you lose your cool. In this landmark book you'll find a very specific, powerful skill set designed to help you keep any scenario from pushing your buttons-and it works.

Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), created by world-renowned therapist Dr. Albert Ellis, provides you with realistic, simple, proven techniques that will significantly reduce your stress levels and help you react effectively, whether the circumstances are professional or personal. Discover:

* Ten beliefs we use to let people and situations needlessly push our buttons
* A powerful alternative to the kind of thinking that upsets us
* The Fatal Foursome-feelings that sabotage you
* How to change your irrational thinking using four key steps

Whether you're dealing with colleagues, parents, kids, friends, or lovers, How to Keep People From Pushing Your Buttons will show you how to enjoy an active, vibrant, successful life.

"Don't get mad or get even-get placid using these techniques for defusing difficult situations." Booklist

Biographical Notes

Albert Ellis (Author)
Albert Ellis, Ph.D. founded Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), the pioneering form of the modern Cognitive Behavioural therapies. In a 1982 professional survey, Dr. Ellis was ranked as the second most influential psychotherapist in history. His name is a staple among psychologists, students, and historians around the world. He published over seven hundred articles and more than sixty books on psychotherapy, marital and family therapy, and sex therapy. Until his death in 2007, Dr. Ellis served as President Emeritus of the Albert Ellis Institute in New York, which provides professional training programs and psychotherapy to individuals, families and groups. To learn more, visit www.albertellis.org.

Arthur Lange (Author)
Arthur Lange, Ed.D. is the coauthor of Responsible Assertive Behavior and The Assertive Option, and has given thousands of presentations using the concepts embodied in this book.

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"No individual - not even Freud himself-has had a greater impact on modern psychotherapy." Psychology Today
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