[If Not For You] might be one of the most beautiful and inspiring things you'll read. Tender, heart-breaking and astonishingly eloquent, its pages flow with love, hope and sometimes even laughter.
I have spent the evening reading (and, yes, God, tissues ...) It is heart breaking, beautiful, important, full of integrity, powerful and honest, inspiring & full of the wonder of women and love ... In bits ... but also, full of admiration. Georgina is a wonderful writer, clear & honest, but never sentimental, and she lets all the other people going through this terrible time with her shine as well. It's also full of strength and hope, and I've no doubt will both help many and also give comfort to other mothers & fathers who have lost a child.
Extraordinary...earth-shattering... so full of love
I finished reading this yesterday in a welter of emotions and not a few tears. I think that this is an amazing story, delicately but powerfully told. Georgina's observations of people, places and events ring so true - they are so often searingly accurate and also so wonderfully compassionate. Despite what could be an inexorably sad story I'm interested that the words I wrote down as I read it are all positive: optimism / hope / strength / power / love. It is my firm belief that immortality is being remembered by those who loved us and Greyman undoubtedly will continue to be remembered and celebrated.
Wow. That has been a heart-wrenching few hours' reading - difficult to read with streaming eyes! It's an incredibly sad but in some ways, also a truly beautiful story. It is heart-breaking in the sense of loss and tragedy, but also uplifting in the way the love sings from each page. Really quite extraordinary.
It is heartbreaking and beautiful
Harrowing. . . If anyone is going through this trauma in the current socially distanced hospitals, this book will be in lieu of all those hugs. A message from one mother to another, reminding them they are not alone.
[A] heart-wrenching and hopeful book . . . about the redeeming power of love . . . A meditation on the meaning of life
This is the most beautiful thing I have ever read; a heart-breaking account of a tragic death that is also a profound, lyrical, sometimes funny and ultimately joyful meditation on the meaning of life. The book of the year, perhaps the decade.
Georgie Lucas writes superbly with her spare, and unsentimental prose.
An extraordinary read. This tender, exquisite memoir explores devastating loss and grief, yes, but most of all it is a book about the surpassing, redemptive power of love. I cannot stop thinking about it.
Beautifully written, searingly honest and profoundly uplifting, this is a book to remind us what is most important in life; a book for anyone who has suffered a loss, or ever will. In short, it is a book for everyone.
I just finished Georgie's book, and am completely shattered by the searing grief and pain which she was able to convey to me, the reader. Beautifully written, it was hard enough to relive with you all the days leading up to Grey's death, then the gorgeously cathartic family funeral lulls one into feeling somewhat healed. Only to be completely shattered by the almost unbearable piercing pain and grief of their loss, so well expressed that I am totally in awe of the way that you and Mindy and all the family went through this pain together, and found beauty and profound gifts to take away. Well done Georgie, I think it will bring solace and help to anyone going through this and give them a primer on how to be present and honest with themselves and those who love them. Because this honesty becomes a gift.
[Lucas's] valuable story is important not just for its own sake; it could help us to speak more, and better, about an unfathomable experience that too many parents endure
This quietly devastating account of birth, pain and loss is gripping. As I read, I was lost in the quiet, tense atmosphere of Grey's story. Georgina Lucas portrays the world of the NICU in minute, often poetic detail, finding warmth and humour when life seems bleakest. It is an unflinching and beautiful book, ending on a note of light and love in a way that should inspire us all.
In this brave, unflinching book Lucas looks back with love and hope at the 21 days of life granted to her baby son, who was born nine weeks premature