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The Rules Do Not Apply

The Rules Do Not Apply

‘Every deep feeling a human is capable of will be shaken loose by this short, but profound book’ David Sedaris


‘I wanted what we all want: everything. We want a mate who feels like family and a lover who is exotic, surprising. We want to be youthful adventurers and middle-aged mothers. We want intimacy and autonomy, safety and stimulation, reassurance and novelty, coziness and thrills. But we can’t have it all.’

Ariel Levy picks you up and hurls you through the story of how she lived believing that conventional rules no longer applied – that marriage doesn’t have to mean monogamy, that aging doesn’t have to mean infertility, that she could be ‘the kind of woman who is free to do whatever she chooses’. But all of her assumptions about what she can control are undone after a string of overwhelming losses.

‘I thought I had harnessed the power of my own strength and greed and love in a life that could contain it. But it has exploded.’

Levy’s own story of resilience becomes an unforgettable portrait of the shifting forces in our culture, of what has changed – and what never can.
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Genre: Biography & True Stories / Memoirs

On Sale: 6th September 2018

Price: £8.99

ISBN-13: 9780349005324

Reviews

Ariel Levy is a writer of uncompromising honesty, remarkable clarity and surprising humor, gathered from the wreckage of tragedy. Her account of life doing its darnedest to topple her, and her refusal to be knocked down, will leave you shaken and inspired. Her ersatz brand of zen wisdom is one we all need in our lives. I am the better for having read this book
Lena Dunham
A great memoir is not just a trip through someone else's life, but a series of long looks into your own life. Ariel Levy's book - grieving, hopeful, painful, funny - is that
Amy Bloom
Every deep feeling a human is capable of will be shaken loose by this short, but profound book. Ariel Levy has taken grief, and made art out of it
David Sedaris
It's become a truism that feminists are living out our mothers' unlived lives. But Ariel Levy seems to be living out the unlived lives of an entire generation of women, simultaneously. Free to do whatever she chooses, she chooses everything. But this is no mindless primer on having or not having it all. While reinventing work, marriage, family, pregnancy, sex, and divorce for herself from the ground up, Levy experiences devastating loss. And she recounts it all here with searing intimacy and an unsentimental yet openhearted rigor
Alison Bechdel, author of Fun Home
Levy is a fantastic writer and reporter, cool-headed, witty and without self-pity
Rachel Cooke, Observer
In this heartwrenching memoir, the journalist reveals how her desire to have it all - the partner, the lover, the adventurous career and the happy family - was painfully blown apart
Stylist
I read The Rules Do Not Apply in one long, rapt sitting. Unflinching and intimate, wrenching and revelatory, Ariel Levy's powerful memoir about love, loss, and finding one's way shimmers with truth and heart on every page
Cheryl Strayed
A great memoir is not a trip through someone else's life, but a series of long looks into your own life. Ariel Levy's book - grieving, hopeful, painful, funny - is that
Amy Bloom
A memoir that will change the way you think about monogamy and motherhood . . . we defy you not to read it in a single sitting
Elle
By chapter three of The Rules Do Not Apply I was ordering copies for every woman I love . . . Levy's honesty and grief are dazzling
Sunday Times
Levy is a fearless, original journalist, now on the New Yorker, and she uses these same qualities to scrutinise her own life . . . Levy's prose is dynamic, molten with verbs and with images of light, movement and change . . . breathtakingly good . . .
Nicci Gerrard, Observer
Her narrative rattles along at the breakneck pace of a gripping thriller, yet her writing is never anything short of crystal clear. She's particularly good at describing love and loss . . . a brilliant memoirist
Independent
This is more than simply a tale of a life undone . . . Levy's articulation of grief is also beautifully, frighteningly real
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Brutally honest yet ultimately uplifting
Vogue
A talented journalist - a staff writer at the New Yorker - she knows how to tell a story and keep it brief . . . gripping
Tablet
A searing and poignantly honest memoir . . . Her story of resilience becomes an unforgettable portrait of the shifting forces in our culture
Sunday Post
Think heightened senses and heady in-the-moment intensity. She's crisscrossed the globe in search of these unique experiences as a staff writer for The New Yorker since 2008, and now turns her interrogative eye on herself. What results is profound, and lasting
Esquire
The Rules Do Not Apply by Ariel Levy is simultaneously the personal story of a dramatic miscarriage, a frank, powerful look at shifting gender roles and how we make a life for ourselves, and an inside glimpse into Levy's work as a journalist for the New Yorker
Curtis Sittenfeld, Observer
A gut punch of a book as she explores the dilemmas of professional women who work hard then find they want children
Jessie Burton, author of The Miniaturist