Russell Kolts - The Compassionate Mind Approach to Managing Your Anger - Little, Brown Book Group

The Compassionate Mind Approach to Managing Your Anger

Using Compassion-focused Therapy

By Russell Kolts

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An invaluable self-help guide for recognising personal anger problems, what lies behind that anger and how to deal with it using Compassion Focused Therapy

We can all get angry from time to time but when it gets out of hand it can have a serious impact on many aspects of our lives. As well as having an impact on our physical and mental health and our ability to engage in healthy relationships, it can also potentially have an enormous impact on society. The media is rife with stories of domestic violence, tragic stories of shaken babies, road-rage incidents and bullying.

Mounting evidence suggests that all this anger can be harmful to us in a number of different ways. As well as the enormously damaging impact chronic anger can have on our relationships with other people, it is being linked to health problems such as cardiovascular disease and irritable bowel syndrome (IBS) and mental illnesses such as depression and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

This invaluable self-help guide will enable the reader to recognise their personal anger problems, gain an understanding of what lies behind their anger, and use techniques based on Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) to deal with their anger more effectively.

CFT was initially developed by Professor Paul Gilbert, author of The Compassionate Mind, to treat those with high levels of self-criticism. It uses the proven, research-based techniques of CBT and other therapies with a special focus on the importance of developing inner compassion, in order to alleviate feelings of shame, develop a more balanced outlook and promote resilience. It incorporates elements of mindfulness and Tibetan Buddhism with recent research on human development and studies of the brain. It is increasingly used to treat a wide range of emotional and psychological problems including depression, overeating, shyness, trauma, anxiety and anger.

Biographical Notes

Dr. Russell Kolts is a clinical psychologist and Professor at Eastern Washington University, USA.He has worked with a wide variety of patients with significant anger issues, including combat veterans, sexual assault survivors, children and adolescents, and the developmentally disabled, in settings such as community mental health centres, rape crisis centres, Veterans hospitals, state hospitals, and schools.

At Eastern Washington University, Dr. Kolts teaches courses on topics such as Mindfulness, Behaviour Therapy, Trauma, Abnormal Psychology, and Statistics. He has received virtually every major teaching honour awarded at the university. In addition to teaching at the university, Dr Kolts runs a practice focused upon mindfulness and the purposeful cultivation of compassion in the Buddhist tradition.He has volunteered at a local state prison where he has worked with prisoners in addressing anger using meditation and the cultivation of compassion.

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  • ISBN: 9781849015592
  • Publication date: 19 Jan 2012
  • Page count: 320
  • Imprint: Robinson
A ground-breaking, helpful and insightful guide to managing anger. — Professor Paul Gilbert, author of The Compassionate Mind
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