Avery Neal - If He's So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad? - Little, Brown Book Group

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    • ISBN:9781472142726
    • Publication date:22 Nov 2018

If He's So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad?

Recognising and Overcoming Subtle Abuse

By Avery Neal

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Avery Neal addresses and educates readers on the more subtly aggressive and controlling tendencies found in relationships that some women might not even realize are abusive-until it's too late.

"The message Avery Neal conveys in this book couldn't be more timely."
From the Foreword by Lois P. Frankel, New York Times bestselling author of Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office

Are you a victim of subtle abuse? Are you always the one apologising or constantly questioning and blaming yourself? Do you often feel confused, frustrated, and angry?


If you answered yes to any of these questions, you're not alone. Nearly half of all women-and men-experience psychological abuse without realizing it. Manipulation, deception and disrespect leave no physical scars, but they can be just as traumatic as physical abuse.

In this ground-breaking book, Avery Neal, founder of the Women's Therapy Clinic, helps you recognize the warning signs of subtle abuse. As you learn to identify patterns that have never made sense before, you will be better equipped to make changes.

From letting go of fear to setting boundaries, whether you're gathering the courage to finally leave or learning how to guard against a chronically abusive pattern, If He's So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad? will help you enjoy a happy, healthy, fulfilling life, free of shame or blame.

"The new gold standard in abuse recovery, allowing readers to break free from old patterns and reclaim their lives."
Jackson MacKenzie, author of Psychopath Free

Biographical Notes

Avery Neal, M.A., LPC, is a licensed psychotherapist, specializing in depression and anxiety in women. In 2012, she opened the Women's Therapy Clinic, a private practice that offers psychiatric care and counselling support to women. She is licensed in both Colorado and Texas, with the clinic having its primary location in The Woodlands/Houston. She offers virtual therapy for patients in Colorado. Visit her at www.womenstherapyclinic.com. For a full list of articles, publications, blog posts, and podcasts, please visit www.averyneal.com.

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  • ISBN: 9781472142719
  • Publication date: 22 Nov 2018
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"The message Avery Neal conveys in this book couldn't be more timely."
From the Foreword by Lois P. Frankel, New York Times bestselling author of Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office

"The new gold standard in abuse recovery, allowing readers to break free from old patterns and reclaim their lives."
Jackson MacKenzie, author of Psychopath Free

"This book can open eyes for people who may have lost pieces of themselves along the way. Great examples and exercises. It is a companion from start to finish."
Dr. Jay Carter, author of Nasty People

"No-nonsense insights and practical ways to regain control of and empower your life."
Dr. George Simon, author of In Sheep's Clothing

"This insightful book can awaken self-esteem, save relationships, even save lives."
Gavin de Becker, author of The Gift of Fear

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UK-born Ajahn Brahm was ordained as a monk in Bangkok at the age of twenty-three by the Abbot of Wat Saket. He subsequently spent nine years studying and training in the forest meditation tradition under Venerable Ajahn Chah. Ajahn Brahm is now the Abbot of Bodhinyana Monastery and the Spiritual Director of the Buddhist Society of Western Australia.

Alice Miller

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Anita Shreve

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Barney Hoskyns

Barney Hoskyns is the co-founder and editorial director of online rock-journalism library Rock's Backpages (www.rocksbackpages.com), and author of several books including Across the Great Divide: The Band & America (1993), Waiting for the Sun: Strange Days, Weird Scenes, & the Sound of Los Angeles (1996), Hotel California: Singer-Songwriters & Cocaine Cowboys in the LA Canyons (2005) and Lowside of the Road: A Life of Tom Waits (2009). A former US correspondent for MOJO, Hoskyns writes for Uncut and other UK publications, and has contributed to Vogue, Rolling Stone and GQ.

Ben Sedley

Ben Sedley is a clinical psychologist and ACT therapist with experience of working with children, adolescents and families facing mental health difficulties in both primary health centres and community mental health teams in New Zealand and London. Ben's training and practice has focused on examining children and young people's understandings of mental health, which has helped guide him on the best ways to explain mental health concepts and ACT to young people.

Brenda Hogan

Dr Brenda Hogan is a clinical psychologist who previously worked at the Primary Care Psychological Treatment Service in Cambridge. She has since moved to Vancouver, Canada, where she continues her work in psychological assessment and the provision of brief psychological treatment for anxiety and depression. Brenda and her colleagues have created a pioneering service in primary care based on self-help approaches to help alleviate a range of common psychological problems.

Charles Young

Dr Charles Young is based in the Department of Psychology at Rhodes University, South Africa, where he has co-ordinated professional training programmes in clinical and counselling psychology. He previously worked at the Primary Care Psychological Treatment Service in Cambridge, UK. Much of his work involves the provision of brief psychological approaches to alleviate anxiety and depression. He helped to develop a pioneering service in primary care based on self-help approaches to help alleviate a range of common psychological problems.

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Formally a monk for seven years within the Tibetan Buddhist tradition, CHODEN completed a three year, three month retreat in 1997 and has been a practicing Buddhist since 1985. Born as Sean McGovern, he is originally from South Africa where he trained as a lawyer and learned meditation under the guidance of Rob Nairn, an internationally renowned Buddhist teacher.Choden is now involved in developing secular mindfulness and compassion programmes drawing upon the wisdom and methods of the Buddhist tradition, as well as contemporary insights from psychology and neuroscience. He is an honorary fellow of the University of Aberdeen and teaches on their Postgraduate Study Programme in Mindfulness (MSc) that is the first of its kind to include compassion in its curriculum. He lives on the Isle of Arran.

Debra Fine

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Jessica Treadway

Jessica Treadway is a novelist and short-story writer interested primarily in the psychological lives of characters who may be hiding things from themselves. A former news reporter for United Press International, she published her first book of stories in 1992, followed by her first novel in 2001 and a second collection, winner of the Flannery O'Connor Award for Short Fiction, in 2010. Most of her work is realistic fiction about families. Jessica is a professor of creative writing at Emerson College in Boston.

Marilyn Paul

Marilyn Paul has a PhD from Yale University and an MBA from Cornell. She is a principal in the consulting firm Bridgeway Partners, with clients that have included Harvard University and The US Department of Transportation. She lives outside Boston with her husband.

Mary Burgess

Dr Burgess, author of Overcoming Chronic Fatigue, has worked as a therapist in the area of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS) for more than ten years. She is both a clinician and a researcher, at Guy's, King's and St Thomas' School of Medicine in London. Much of her research has been into ways of bringing treatment to CFS patients who, because of their illness, have difficulty attending her clinics. She is currently working as a cognitive behavioural psychotherapist at the School's Chronic Fatigue Syndrome Research and Treatment Unit.

Matthew Johnstone

Matthew Johnstone is an artist, writer and exhibited photographer. New Zealand born, he worked in advertising in Sydney, San Francisco and New York. He now resides inSydney with his family. He and his wife, Ainsley, know all too well what it's like to live with a 'black dog' - Matthew has personally experienced the hell of depression, while Ainsley has first-hand knowledge ofthe frustration and confusion almost always felt by those who care for a depressed person. Together they are uniquelyable to offer practical and helpful advice.

Matthew McKay

Matthew McKay, PhD, is a professor at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, CA. He has authored and coauthored numerous books, including The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook, Self-Esteem, Thoughts and Feelings, When Anger Hurts, and ACT on Life Not on Anger. He has also penned two fiction novels, Us and The Wawona Hotel. McKay received his PhD in clinical psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology, and specializes in the cognitive behavioral treatment of anxiety and depression. He lives and works in the Bay Area.

Michael Crowe

Dr. Michael Crowe was a founder member of both the British Association for Behavioural and Cognitive Psychotherapy (BABCP) and the Institute of Family Therapy in London. He worked as a psychiatrist for almost 30 years at the Maudsley Hospital, London and was honorary Senior Lecturer at the Institute of Psychiatry (Kings College, London). Since retirement he works in private practise and continues to teach and lecture.

Patrick Holford

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Paul Gilbert

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Rosamund Lupton

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Russ Harris

Dr Russ Harris was born in Liverpool, England. After graduating in medicine from the University of Newcastle-Upon-Tyne, he emigrated to Australia. As a family doctor, he became increasingly interested in the psychological aspects of medical illness (and increasingly less interested in writing prescriptions). In his eclectic career, he has been a stand-up comedian, sex therapist, filmmaker, novelist, and workshop presenter. He now practices as a psychological health physician in Melbourne.