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‘Such a beautiful read, like chatting to a friend over a cuppa. This is the intimate, insightful read that I didn’t know I needed. Just brilliant.’ Dorothy Koomson, bestselling author

The Sex Lives of African Women uniquely amplifies individual women from across the African continent and its global diaspora, as they speak of their diverse experiences of sex, sexualities and relationships.

Many of the women who tell their stories in this collection recall the journeys they have travelled in order to own their own sexualities. They do this by grappling with experiences of child sexual abuse, resisting the religious edicts of their childhood, and by asserting their sexual power.

From finding queer community in Egypt to living a polyamorous life in Senegal to understanding the intersectionality of religion and pleasure in Cameroon to choosing to leave relationships that no longer serve them, these narratives are as individual and illuminating as the women who share them.

The Sex Lives of African Women provides a deep insight into women’s quest for freedom, highlights the complex tapestry of African women’s sexuality, and bestows upon all women inspirational examples to live a truly liberated life.

What readers are saying about The Sex Lives of African Women:

Extraordinarily dynamic… A book like none you will have read before… Documents and legitimises the desires and sexuality of African women, beyond every conceivable stereotype… With sensitivity, this book has facilitated astonishing breaking of silences.’ The Guardian

‘Talking about sex is still taboo in most cultures and communities and these personal stories reveal a mind-blowing variety of sexualities, sex lives and relationships.’ Bernadine Evaristo, The Times

‘A beautiful, delicate and sometimes brutal exploration of African Womanhood and sexuality, honest and moving. A vital treasure.’ Bolu Babalola, author of Love in Colour

‘Nothing less than stunning. Essential read! I couldn’t put it down.’ Nicole Dennis-Benn, bestselling author of Patsy and Here Comes the Sun

‘Every single story leaves you feeling deliciously empowered.’ Lola Shoneyin, author of The Secret Lives of Baba Segi’s Wives

‘A boundary-breaking, fascinating and deeply affirming set of accounts that emphasises the necessity of allowing African women to tell the stories of their sexuality on their own terms.’ Otegha Uwagba, writer and speaker

‘A captivating diasporic work of sensual geographies. Teeming with freedom and agency. Utterly triumphant.’ Irenosen Okojie, author and playwright

I just didn’t want it to end. Each and every story is unique, powerful … A global, ambitious collection that hums with the author’s love for the subject and her interviewees.’ Goodreads Reviewer, 5 stars

‘Overflowing with candour, vulnerability, and juiciness… Captures the breadth and depth of the Diaspora with the intimacy of looking in a mirror. Marvellous!’ Deesha Philyaw, author of The Secret Lives of Church Ladies

‘Satiates my appetite for stories that take the interior lives of Black, African and Afro-descendant women seriously. It is simply unparalleled and right on time.’ Charlene A. Carruthers, author of Unapologetic

Reviews

If you read Three Women and thought, "Where are all the non-white people?", this book has the answer
Cosmopolitan
A boundary-breaking, fascinating and deeply affirming set of accounts that emphasises the necessity of allowing African women to tell the stories of their sexuality on their own terms
Otegha Uwagba
Such a beautiful read, like chatting to a friend over a cuppa. This is the intimate, insightful read that I didn't know I needed. Just brilliant
Dorothy Koomson
A captivating diasporic work of sensual geographies. Teeming with freedom and agency. Utterly triumphant
Irenosen Okojie
A beautiful, delicate and sometimes brutal exploration of African Womanhood and sexuality, honest and moving. A vital treasure
Bolu Babalola
Extraordinarily dynamic...Here is a book like none you will have read before. The women speak openly and invariably for the first time about their experiences of sex and relationships as they seek to claim individual agency, however that expresses itself. They share emotion-filled stories with honesty, addressing everyday personal dramas within the wider context in which self-worth and confidence are affected by racism and patriarchy, with revolution in the streets and revolution in the sheets being two sides of the same coin...With sensitivity, this book has facilitated astonishing breaking of silences
Margaret Busby, The Guardian
I just didn't want it to end. Each and every story is unique, powerful ... A global, ambitious collection that hums with the author's love for the subject and her interviewees
Goodreads
These personal stories reveal a mind-blowing variety of sexualities, sex lives and relationships. Fascinating.
Bernardine Evaristo
To hear these stories told with such agency shouldn't be a novelty, but the sheer fact of their existence makes this book truly important
Bristol Life
Fantastically interesting and original
Francesca Beauman, author of The Literary Almanac
Overflowing with candor, vulnerability, and juiciness, this collection of raw, tender stories that Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah has so lovingly gathered will upend all of your assumptions and stereotypes. These mothers, activists, writers, sex workers, and others share painful truths, evolving glories, and journeys toward love and freedom, in their own words. They are trans, queer, heterosexual, kinky, and say, 'To hell with labels.' Facing down dangers and double standards, they are healing. The Sex Lives of African Women captures the breadth and depth of the Diaspora with the intimacy of looking in a mirror. Marvelous!
Deesha Philyaw, author of The Secret Lives of Church Ladies
The Sex Lives of African Women is a Pan-African feminist love offering to our ancestors, women living across the Diaspora and future generations to come. Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah delivers this love with honesty, levity and delicious prose. This book satiates my appetite for stories that take the interior lives of Black, African and Afro-descendant women seriously. It is simply unparalleled and right on time.
Charlene A. Carruthers, author of Unapologetic: A Black, Queer, and Feminist Mandate for Radical Movements
In these emotionally charged and refreshingly honest essays, this collection gives literal shape to women's sexuality and desires. Nothing less than stunning. Essential read! I couldn't put it down.
Nicole Dennis-Benn, bestselling author of Patsy and Here Comes the Sun
This collection affirms what we've known all along: African women are reclaiming their bodies and taking ownership of their sexual destinies. Every single story leaves you feeling deliciously empowered.
Lola Shoneyin, author of The Secret Lives of Baba Segi's Wives.
Everyone will come away standing a little taller and breathing a little lighter, buoyed by the affirmation that we are all normal and that the marginal is central. The Sex Lives of African Women is a safe space: it is pure, unadulterated freedom.
Jane Link, Big Black Books