By Abby Ellin
'Abby Ellin's writing is everything her fiancé pretended to be: witty, vulnerable, brave, smart, and honest.' -- Michael Finkel, author of The Stranger in the WoodsWhile leading a double life sounds like the stomping ground of psychopaths, moles, and covert agents with indeterminate dialects, plenty of people who appear 'normal' keep canyon-sized secrets from those in their immediate orbits. These untold stories lead to enormous surprises, often unpleasant ones. Duped is an investigation of compulsive liars - and how they fool their loved ones - drawing on Abby Ellin's personal experience.From the day Abby went on her first date with The Commander, she was caught up in a whirlwind. Within five months he'd proposed, and they'd moved in together. But there were red flags: strange stories of international espionage, involving Osama bin Laden and the Pentagon. Soon his stories began to unravel until she discovered, far later than she'd have liked, that he was a complete and utter fraud.When Ellin wrote about her experience in Psychology Today, the responses were unlike anything she'd experienced as a journalist. Legions of people wrote in with similar stories, of otherwise sharp-witted and self-aware people being taken in by ludicrous scams. Why was it so hard to spot these outlandish stories? Why were so many of the perpetrators male, and so many of the victims female? Was there something universal at play here?In Duped, New York Times journalist Abby Ellin explores the secret lives of compulsive liars, and the tragedy of those who trust them - who have experienced severe, prolonged betrayal - and the terrible impact on their sense of reality and their ability to trust ever again. Studying the art and science of lying, talking to victims who've had their worlds turned upside down, and writing with great openness about her own mistakes, she lays the phenomenon bare. Ellin offers us a shocking and intimate look not only at the damage that the duplicitous cause, but the painful reaction of a society that is all too quick to blame the believer.
The Disordered Mind
By Eric R. Kandel
In his latest book, Nobel Prize winning scientist and distinguished professor Eric R. Kandel explains how the processes of the brain that give rise to the mind can become disordered, resulting in devastating brain disorders that haunt humankind. Neurological and psychiatric disorders have long been regarded as fundamentally different, depending on whether they appeared to affect the brain or the mind. In reality, the brain and the mind are inseparable. Both neurological and psychiatric disorders can affect every aspect of brain function: perception, action, memory, volition, motivation, emotion, empathy, social interaction, thought, attention and consciousness. It is easy to view brain disorders as simply tragic or frightening - and considering the profound effects they have on the lives of patients and their families, that is understandable.However, brain disorders also provide a window into the healthy brain. The more scientists and clinicians learn about disorders - from observing patients and from research - the more they understand about healthy brain function and the more likely they are to be able to develop effective treatments, or even preventative strategies. The more the rest of us learn about brain disorders, the more likely we are as individuals and as a society to understand and empathize with people who have these disorders and the less likely we are to stigmatize them.The Disordered Mind is the definitive statement on all we know about the brain and its associated disorders, a seminal book on the subject, authored by one of the most eminent figures in neuroscience.
The Discomfort Zone
By Farrah Storr
'Honest, witty and insightful' Emma Gannon'A brilliant, useful book' Dawn O'Porter'Farrah has written a book about the things no one wants to talk about: failure, discomfort, and how to deal with both' Sophia Amoruso, author of #GirlbossWhile it is human nature to shy away from things that are outside of our comfort zone, it is only by spending time in our discomfort zone that we can grow, and improve, and realise our full potential. Whether it's putting yourself forward for a new challenge, asking for difficult feedback, nailing a presentation or getting a dream job, in this book Farrah Storr shows how you have to push through what she calls "brief moments of discomfort" in order to get to where you need to be.Farrah describes these brief moments of discomfort as "like HIIT training for your life" - and shows how the more you force yourself into them, the easier it will get. This book is full of advice, practical exercises and examples both from Farrah's own life and career and from all sorts of other successful people, from athletes to entrepreneurs.By adopting the brief moments of discomfort, or BMD method, you will soon understand that nothing in life is an insurmountable challenge, only a series of small, uncomfortable tests that can easily be overcome. Once you have used Farrah's techniques to transform your fear into bite-size, manageable pieces, you'll be able to take on anything. In fact, in time, you'll even begin to enjoy these moments. When you explore your discomfort zone, you'll find that anything is possible.
DIY Rules for a WTF World
By Krista Suh
Krista Suh took an idea and created a worldwide movement and symbol in just two months. The pussyhat continues to unite women and men from all walks of life. From the cover of The New Yorker and Time, to SNL and the Missoni runway, it is a permanent part of the resistance culture. Like so many women, Krista spent years letting the fear of being unlikeable or failing or disappointing her family stop her from going all in on ideas and learning to live by her own rules. From the myth of the exceptional woman to DIY activism, Krista will talk about how to fight the idea squelchers within and without, how she uses a fear/want chart to make decisions, the goat/horse theory of friendship, how the personal is political and how to create community and inspire action. The reader will be inspired to demolish the patriarchy and create their own rules for living.
Dare to be Kind
By Lizzie Velasquez
'Lizzie has been able to embody the power of hope and compassion in everything she does. Stories like hers keep me inspired every day.' Michelle Obama'Lizzie is making our culture a kinder one by encouraging people to undermine hate through self-acceptance and everyday acts of empathy. Her heart and humour shine through on every page!' -Lilly Singh, entertainer, comedian and author of How to Be a BawseCelebrated motivational speaker and YouTube sensation Lizzie Velasquez shows us how we can learn to accept all parts of ourselves and others to create a culture of kindness and a more compassionate world.Born with a rare genetic condition, Lizzie Velasquez always knew she was different, but it wasn't until she was much older that she understood what that meant to others. At seventeen she came across a viral video entitled 'World's Ugliest Woman'- only to discover that it featured her. In response, she decided to stand up on behalf of victims everywhere and created one of YouTube's most popular motivational channels and a TEDx talk that has drawn tens of millions of viewers. In this daring, inspiring book, Lizzie reveals the hidden forces that give rise to self-doubt, shame and cruelty, and empowers us to redirect them to unlock empathy and kindness for ourselves and others. Through her own battles with anxiety and coping with disappointment, she demonstrates how we can overcome obstacles and move forward with greater positivity.Dare to Be Kind presents the path to acceptance, love and tolerance, and offers a blueprint for how to lead a resilient life and, ultimately, forge a radically compassionate world.
Defeating Teenage Depression
By Roslyn Law
HIGHLY COMMENDED for the British Medical Awards book prize for Popular MedicineAre you feeling down and irritable a lot of the time? Do relationships with your family and friends seem more complicated than they used to? Do you wish that someone would understand that you aren't just being a moody teenager? If so, you're not alone and this book can help. Depression is more than being sad or in a bad mood and it can make life feel like it is all too much. Depression tells you that there is nothing you can do about it, but with the right help you can turn your story around and rediscover all there is to enjoy in life.This practical guide uses techniques based on Interpersonal Psychotherapy for Adolescents (IPT-A) which has been used to help children and young people with depression around the world. IPT-A helps you to develop your own story of what is happening in your life so that you can understand your depression and how to get out of it.You will learn who you can call on to help, even when depression tries to tell you that no one is interested. Don't listen - depression gives bad advice! IPT-A helps you to sort out the problems with other people that are an inevitable part of life when you are growing up and so much is changing around you. With IPT-A, we will get there together.
Draw With A Vengeance
By Helen Wrath
Everyone has an X Perhaps you've had an unfaithful lover, an ex-friend, or a horrible boss. In this book, we call that person X," because asinine, egotistical imbecile" would take up too much space. Every page in Draw with a Vengeance includes a drawing prompt or activity so you can doodle, cut out, tear, or otherwise destroy the object of your aversion. The message here is simple: Don't do bad things to bad people. Draw bad things,and let karma handle the rest.
Disarming the Narcissist, Second Edition
By Wendy T. Behary
Do you know someone who is overly arrogant, shows an extreme lack of empathy, or exhibits an inflated sense of entitlement? Do they exploit others, or engage in magical thinking? These are all traits of narcissistic personality disorder, and when it comes to dealing with narcissists, it can be difficult to get your point across. So how do you handle the narcissistic people in your life? You might interact with them in social or professional settings, and you might even love one-so ignoring them isn't really a practical solution. They're frustrating, and maybe even intimidating, but ultimately, you need to find a way of communicating effectively with them.Disarming the Narcissist, Second Edition, will show you how to move past the narcissist's defenses using compassionate, empathetic communication. You'll learn how narcissists view the world, how to navigate their coping styles, and why, oftentimes, it's sad and lonely being a narcissist. By learning to anticipate and avoid certain hot-button issues, you'll be able to relate to narcissists without triggering aggression. By validating some common narcissistic concerns, you'll also find out how to be heard in conversation with a narcissist.This book will help you learn to meet your own needs while side-stepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments with someone who is at the center of his or her own universe. This new edition also includes new chapters on dealing with narcissistic women, aggressive and abusive narcissists, strategies for safety, and the link between narcissism and sex addiction.Finally, you'll learn how to set limits with your narcissist and when it's time to draw the line on unacceptable behavior.
Detroit Rock City
By Steve Miller
Detroit Rock City is an oral history of Detroit and its music told by the people who were on the stage, in the clubs, the practice rooms, studios, and in the audience, blasting the music out and soaking it up, in every scene from 1967 to today.From fabled axe men like Ted Nugent, Dick Wagner, and James Williamson jump to Jack White, to pop flashes Suzi Quatro and Andrew W.K., to proto punkers Brother Wayne Kramer and Iggy Pop, Detroit slices the rest of the land with way more than its share of the Rock Pie. Detroit Rock City is the story that has never before been sprung, a frenzied and schooled account of both past and present, calling in the halcyon days of the Grande Ballroom and the Eastown theatre, where national acts who came thru were made to stand and deliver in the face of the always hard hitting local support acts. It moves on to the Michigan Palace, Bookies Club 870, City Club, Gold Dollar, and Magic Stick - all magical venues in America's top rock city. Detroit Rock City brings these worlds to life all from the guys and dolls who picked up a Strat and jammed it into our collective craniums. From those behind the scenes cats who promoted, cajoled, lost their shirts, and popped the platters to the punters who drove from everywhere, this is the book that gives life to Detroit's legend of loud.
By Greil Marcus
A fan from the moment the Doors' first album took over KMPX, the revolutionary FM rock & roll station in San Francisco, Greil Marcus saw the band many times at the legendary Fillmore Auditorium and the Avalon Ballroom in 1967. Five years later it was all over. Forty years after the singer Jim Morrison was found dead in Paris and the group disbanded, one could drive from here to there, changing from one FM pop station to another, and be all but guaranteed to hear two, three, four Doors songs in an hour,every hour. Whatever the demands in the music, they remained unsatisfied, in the largest sense unfinished, and absolutely alive. There have been many books on the Doors. This is the first to bypass their myth, their mystique, and the death cult of both Jim Morrison and the era he was made to personify, and focus solely on the music. It is a story untold all these years later, it is a new story.
Dancing at the Shame Prom
By Hollye Dexter, Amy Ferris
Shame is a powerful thing. It can weigh on your heart and mind, diminish your sense of self-worth, and impact the way you live in the world. But what happens when you share that secret burden? Amy Ferris, Hollye Dexter, and the writers they brought together are all ready to let go of shame. In Dancing at the Shame Prom, twenty-six extraordinary women,Lyena Strelkoff, Teresa Stack, Monica Holloway, Nina Burleigh, Amy Friedman, Meredith Resnick, Victoria Zackheim, and more,take the plunge and say yes" to sharing their stories. These brave writers, journalists, musicians, artists, directors, and activists have offered up their most funny, sad, poignant, miraculous, life-changing, and jaw-dropping secrets for you to gawk at, empathize with, and learn from,in the hopes that they will inspire others to do the same. Letting go feels good!Freeing, provocative, and audacious, Dancing at the Shame Prom is about flaunting the secrets that have made you feel small so that you can stand up straight, let the shame go, and finally,decisively,move on with your life.
Deep in the Wave
By Bear Woznick, Lou Aronica
In this intimate portrayal of the relationship between surfing and the soul, Bear Woznick shares his deep knowledge of the sport on every page along with his spiritual vision. Readers will be captivated by all the inside surfing information, from learning how a surfboard is made to accompanying the author as he describes catching a monster wave and riding for his life. Bear's portrayal of the beauty and power of the ocean is an inspiring one that truly showcases the profound meaning surfing has had on his life. Instead of standing on the shore with our toes in the surf, Bear takes us on the board - to the deep water - to watch and wait - and, if need be, to paddle hard to survive. The spiritual journey described in DEEP IN THE WAVE is as exciting as the surfing and Bear keeps readers engaged every step of the way. As Bear says, surfers take risks "going deep" into a big wave and we can all "go deep" spiritually on our path to God.
Dare To Take Charge
By Judge Glenda Hatchett
For nearly ten years, Judge Glenda Hatchett has delighted TV audiences with a brand of justice that turns the everyday into something eminently watchable. Her message can be distilled into the following two words: Dare Yourself. Whatever obstacles or fears one faces, Judge Hatchett's prescription implores readers to write their own story in this life. With care and conviction, Judge Hatchett counsels the reader to find their true purpose and discover their gifts, to be real about their reality and its potential outside of challenging circumstances and to always be true-to-yourself. Interactive as well as inspirational, DARE TO TAKE CHARGE challenges the reader to ask self-reflective questions that lead to moments of self-discovery and a defined pathway to healing. Daring her audience to study the positive with the same interest and intensity that they study the negative, Judge Hatchett uncovers the potential for grace and success in lives that are now punctuated with despair and unfaithfulness.
The Dialectical Behaviour Therapy Skills Workbook for Anxiety
By Alexander L. Chapman
The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook for Anxiety adapts the powerful dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) program for the treatment of anxiety and anxiety-related conditions. DBT offers a set of skills for managing emotional distress that are useful for all people, but can be especially beneficial for anxiety sufferers who are prone to panic attacks, exaggerated worries and fears, and obsessive and compulsive behaviors. This Workbook presents a DBT-based program for overcoming anxiety that helps readers discover and apply the core DBT skills, practice developing assertiveness, and learn to deal with conflict and anxiety-provoking situations.
Don't Shoot - I'm Not Well
By Seán Brickell
THIS BOOK CONTAINS SOME POWERFUL, PRACTICAL, CONFIDENCE TECHNIQUES THAT WILL TRANSFORM YOUR WORK AND LIFE WITH IMMEDIATE EFFECT. Do you want... * MORE SOCIAL CONFIDENCE to make you more popular? * MORE EMOTIONAL CONFIDENCE to make you more attractive? * MORE CONFIDENCE AT WORK so you get paid more & promoted? * CONFIDENCE TO ENJOY more adventure and excitement in your life? * CONFIDENCE TO GRAB more life-changing opportunities? If the answer to any of these is `Yes`, then the highly practical and realistic Don't Shoot I'm Not Well! will give you the skills and the mindset you need. The techniques in the book will help you deal with rude, bitchy & patronising people; ask women or men out; gain sexual confidence; deal with a critical partner or parent; network effectively; cope with setbacks; and more. They are explained by someone who's used them successfully: when held at gunpoint; in a war zone; during undercover work; when making a profitable difference at major public corporations; and in many other random situations. Learning these techniques will energise and empower you, and you will enjoy the colourful, down-to-earth, no-nonsense, witty and highly effective way the book sets about teaching them to you. The book also includes case studies of real people who have used them to transform their lives. JUST SOME OF THE COMMENTS ABOUT DON T SHOOT I M NOT WELL!: Don't Shoot I'm Not Well! is a great read that is both educational and entertaining. It is a colourful, thought-provoking, encouraging, down to earth and practical book that will make you feel you can improve your confidence. Sir Ranulph Fiennes, Explorer. Sean's book will inspire more people to take the plunge with greater confidence. Sir James Dyson, Inventor. / Great title. Great book. And a great read on an important subject that affects all of us. Don't Shoot - I'm Not Well! is a thought provoking, tell it as it is read that will amuse, move and motivate you to make a difference in your life. Doug Richard, Entrepreneur & ex-Dragon on BBC TV s Dragons Den. / Seán's book is a must read. Don't Shoot - I'm Not Well! is jam-packed with fascinating insights into how to develop self-confidence. It is a timely, compelling and a no-nonsense guide which is easy to follow, all based on real experiences. It has clearly been written by someone who knows what they re talking about. Nick Cameron MC MBE, ex-Sergeant in 22 SAS. / If you're serious about gaining confidence, try this book. Richard Reed, Co-Founder of Innocent Drinks. / Feeling confident about yourself and what you can achieve often makes the difference between success and failure. If reading this book can help to equip you with the tools to instil confidence within yourself and those around you, then this can only assist a positive outcome! Daisy Berkeley, Olympic, World & European equestrian medallist.
By Jeanne Safer
When psychotherapist Jeanne Safer lost her mother, she was determined to turn her loss into an opportunity for insight and growth. Through her own experience, her work with patients, and in-depth interviews, Safer shows that the death of a parent can be a catalyst for change. In this updated paperback edition, Safer includes a helpful resource section, including information on hospice care, rehabilitation programs, and more. Bold, surprising, and compassionate, Death Benefits challenges the idea that loss must simply be endured or overcome.
Do Your Own Divorce
By John Bolch
This book will save you money. Even if the divorce is completely straightforward, and there are no arrangements for children and finances to sort out, a solicitor will typically charge between GBP500 and GBP1000 to deal with the divorce for you, not including court fees. If there are arrangements for children or finances to sort out, then the solicitor's fees are likely to be many times that sum. This book is for the increasing number of people who have to go through divorce proceedings without legal assistance, and for those who just want to save legal costs. It includes: *A guide to divorce proceedings, including completing all the required forms. *Sorting out financial/property arrangements, whether by agreement or through the court. *Making arrangements for children. *Details of child support maintenance. *Dealing with domestic violence, costs and mediation. *Plus specimen forms, useful addresses and websites, and a detailed glossary of legal terms. This book is for anyone who is seeking or contemplating a divorce, or anyone whose spouse has issued divorce proceedings against them. Even if you are separating from your spouse and do not wish to divorce at this time, this book will be useful to you as many of the principles with regard to arrangements for children and sorting out finances are the same.Contents: 1. Divorce; 2. Children; 3. Child maintenance; 4. Finances and property; 5. Domestic violence; 6. Mediation; 7. Costs and legal aid; 8. Final thoughts; Appendix 1 - Example Documents; Appendix 2 - Useful Addresses and Websites; Appendix 3 - Glossary; Appendix 4 - List of Divorce County Courts; Index.
The Directory Of Classical Themes
By Denys Parsons
Have you ever had a classical tune buzzing round your head and not been able to identify it? In The Directory of Classical Themes, with no greater musical knowledge than the ability to hum the tune, you will be able to find it. Denys Parsons discovered that the only necessary feature to distinguish any number of different themes was the up-and-down pattern of the melody. This enabled him to compile a reference work that is incredibly easy to use. Practically every well-known classical theme from the 16th century onwards is found in these pages. It can be used to find the composer, identify the theme and movement of a sonata, symphony or concerto and to check the opus number or key of a work you already know.
Developing Mental Toughness 2nd Edition
By Adrian Moorhouse, Graham Jones
High achievers do more than merely cope with pressure they thrive on it! This book has been written for executives in business who wishes to achieve consistent, high level performance under pressure. It is underpinned by published research from leading sport psychologist Professor Graham Jones, which shows that high achievers do more than simply cope with thrive on it! The vital factor in thriving on pressure and moving to higher levels of business performance is the development of mental toughness. By applying elite sport psychology to the business world, this book highlights the enormous role played by pressure in both business and sport and draws parallels between them. It shows how by developing mental toughness it is possible to manage pressure to such an extent that you are able consistently to deliver extraordinary levels of performance. Together with the necessary skills and competencies you need to perform your role, mental toughness is the vital factor in delivering high performance that is sustainable. It will enable you to thrive on, rather than merely cope with, pressure and maintain believe in yourself even when it's being seriously challenged. Contents: List of Illustrations; About the authors; Aknowledgements; 1. Introduction; 2. Why Mental Toughness Is Important; 3. What Mental Toughness Is; 4. Keeping Your Head Under Stress; 5. Staying Strong In Your Self-Belief; 6. Making Your Motivation Work for You; 7. Maintaining Your Focus on the Things that Matter; 8. Frequently-Asked Questions About Mental Toughness; Appendix A Meditative Relaxation; Appdendix B Imagery-Based Relaxation; Appendix C Progressive Muscular Relaxation (PMR); Appendix D Adominal Breathing; Index
Da Capo Best Music Writing 2005
By JT LeRoy
Da Capo Best Music Writing has become one of the most eagerly awaited annuals of them all. Celebrating the year in music writing by gathering a rich array of essays, missives, and musings on every style of music from rock to hip-hop to R&B to jazz to pop to blues and more, it is essential reading for anyone who loves great music and accomplished writing. Scribes of every imaginable sort-novelists, poets, journalists, musicians-are gathered to create a multi-voiced snapshot of the year in music writing that, like the music it illuminates, is every bit as thrilling as it is riveting.Past writers have included:Elizabeth MEndez Berry * Ta-Nehisi Coates * Michael Corcoran * Robbie Fulks * Michaelangelo Matos * Alex Ross * Roni Sarig * Joel Selvin * Tour8E * Lynn Hirschberg * Chuck Klosterman * Elizabeth Gilbert * Jay McInerney * Elvis Costello * Susan Orlean * Jonathan Lethem * David Rakoff * Mike Doughty * Lorraine Ali * Greil Marcus * Richard Meltzer * Robert Gordon * Sarah Vowell * Nick Tosches * Anthony DeCurtis * William Gay * Whitney Balliett * Lester Bangs * Rosanne Cash * Eddie Dean * Selwyn Seyfu Hinds * Kate Sullivan * Alec Wilkinson * David Hadju * Lenny Kaye * The Onion * Mark Jacobson * Gary Giddins * John Leland * Luc Sante * Monica Kendrick * Kalefa Sanneh