How to Keep People From Pushing Your Buttons
By Albert Ellis, Arthur Lange
Life can get tough. From unemployment-or overwork-to divorce or remarriage, the challenges of newly blended families, not to mention everyday hassles, stress can feel non-stop. To top it off, technology confronts us with a barrage of seemingly urgent tasks 24/7. It's no wonder things and people can make you lose your cool. In this landmark book you'll find a very specific, powerful skill set designed to help you keep any scenario from pushing your buttons-and it works.Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), created by world-renowned therapist Dr. Albert Ellis, provides you with realistic, simple, proven techniques that will significantly reduce your stress levels and help you react effectively, whether the circumstances are professional or personal. Discover: * Ten beliefs we use to let people and situations needlessly push our buttons * A powerful alternative to the kind of thinking that upsets us * The Fatal Foursome-feelings that sabotage you * How to change your irrational thinking using four key steps Whether you're dealing with colleagues, parents, kids, friends, or lovers, How to Keep People From Pushing Your Buttons will show you how to enjoy an active, vibrant, successful life."Don't get mad or get even-get placid using these techniques for defusing difficult situations." Booklist
How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable
By Albert Ellis
All of us worry about something, big or small, every day. But much of the emotional misery we feel is an overreaction, and it can be significantly reduced, using the techniques you'll find in this landmark book. World renowned therapist Dr. Albert Ellis, who created Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), believed that anger, anxiety and depression are not only unnecessary, they're unethical, because when we allow ourselves to become emotionally upset, we're being unfair and unjust to ourselves. Thinking negative thoughts is a choice we can refuse to make. Applying the proven, time-tested principles of REBT is a simple, logical way to find true mental health and happiness. REBT acknowledges the power of emotions, but it also helps us understand which feelings are healthy and which are not. This classic book teaches you how to:*Retrain your brain to focus on the positive aspects of your life and face each obstacle without unnecessary despair*Control your emotional destiny*Refuse to upset yourself about upsetting yourself*Solve practical problems as well as emotional problems*Conquer the tyranny of "shoulds"...and much more, providing all the tools you need to take back your life-and your happiness. If you can refuse to make yourself miserable, you're that much closer to making yourself happy-every day.
How to Control Your Anxiety
By Albert Ellis
From social anxiety to phobias to post-traumatic stress disorder, sources of anxiety in daily life are numerous, and can have a powerful impact on your future. By following the rules of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), created by world renowned therapist Dr. Albert Ellis, you can stop anxiety in its tracks if you will admit this important fact: Things and people do not make you anxious. You do. Your unrealistic expectations produce your needless anxiety. Yet not all anxiety is needless...Healthy anxiety can ward off dangers and make you aware of negative things that you can change. Unhealthy anxiety inhibits you from enjoying everyday activities and relationships, causes you to perform poorly, and blocks your creativity. Using the easy-to-master, proven precepts of REBT, this classic book not only helps you distinguish between healthy and unhealthy anxiety, but teaches you how to:*Understand and dispute the irrational beliefs that make you anxious*Use a variety of exercises, including rational coping self-statements, reframing, problem-solving methods, and Unconditional Self-Acceptance (USA), to control your anxiety*Apply over 200 maxims to control your anxious thinking as well as your bodily reactions to anxiety...and much more, including examples from dozens of cases Dr. Ellis treated successfully. Now you can overcome the crippling effects of anxiety-and increase your prospects for success, pleasure and happiness at home and in the workplace.
How to Control Your Anger
By Albert Ellis, Raymond Chip Tafrate
Anger is universal. Unchecked, it can cause lasting damage in our lives: wrecked relationships, lost jobs, even serious disease. Yet in these increasingly stressful times, all of us have acted in anger - and often wished we hadn't. Is there a way that really works to solve problems and assert ourselves without being angry? The answer is a resounding yes, if you follow the breakthrough steps of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). This proven approach, developed by world renowned psychotherapist Dr. Albert Ellis, has withstood the test of time, helping countless people deal effectively with emotional problems. Using easy-to-master instructions and exercises, this classic book will show you how to apply REBT techniques to understand the roots and nature of your anger, and take control of and reduce angry reactions. Here you will discover: *The rational and irrational aspects of anger*Special insights into your self-angering beliefs*How to think, feel, and act your way out of anger*How to relax*How to accept yourself with your anger. . .and much more that will help you challenge and eliminate the anger that can frustrate success and happiness at home, at work, anywhere.
How to Stop Destroying Your Relationships
By Albert Ellis, Robert A. Harper
Lost enough loves for three lifetimes? Want to break bad habits and replace them with good ones that last? Whether you are male or female, single or married, gay or straight, Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), created by world renowned therapist Dr. Albert Ellis, can help anyone-at any age-learn to maintain healthy and lasting love. Simple and effective, the proven REBT techniques in this landmark book show you how to relate lovingly and intimately, for the long-term. Using a non-judgmental approach, here is more than just a guide to getting along better with a "significant other." You'll also find help for improving relationships with friends, children, and even in-laws. Discover practical information on: *Getting Your Relationships Together by Getting Yourself Together*Realistic Views of Couplehood*Communicating and Problem-Solving*Better Sex for Better Couplehood*Saving Time and Money and Enjoying Life More*Having or Not Having Children*Building a Deep and Lasting Relationship*Self-coping statements and exercises to keep you emotionally fit...and much more to help you take matters into your own hands-and heart-and stop the cycle of relationship ruin. With healing doses of wisdom and humor, Dr. Ellis puts you firmly on the path toward a lifetime of love.
Helping Your Child with Sleep Problems
By Rachel Hiller, Michael Gradisar
Does your child have trouble getting to sleep? Are they worried about being left alone?Sleep problems are a common issue for school-aged children and can be a stressful situation for child and parent alike. But whether your child suffers from bedtime separation anxiety, insomnia or night-terrors, or simply refuses to sleep in their own bed, this book can help.Written by expert authors with experience of treating childhood sleep disorders, this easy to read manual uses tried and trusted techniques from cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) to help everyone have a better night's sleep, including:· Using sleep diaries to set a sleep routine that helps your child fall asleep quicker· Proven methods for helping your child to face their worries around bedtime· Strategies for dealing with bedwetting, night terrors and sleepwalkingThis step-by-step guide to establishing better sleep patterns will help you become a sleep therapist for your child! Helping Your Child is a series for parents and caregivers to support children through developmental difficulties, both psychological and physical. Each guide uses clinically-proven techniques.Series editors: Professor Peter Cooper and Dr Polly Waite
Heal the Body, Heal the Mind
By Susanne Babbel, Marti Glenn
When trauma occurs, the logical mind is hijacked and physiology takes over in an effort to protect you. This leaves an imprint-your body wants to ensure that nothing like that will ever happen again. Being reminded of a traumatic event can trigger these automatic responses, leaving you feeling paralyzed or unable to take action. This book will help you understand why and how unresolved trauma can infiltrate all aspects of your life, including your mind and body-even when you're not aware of its influence.With Heal the Body, Heal the Mind as a gentle guide, you'll learn about different types of trauma, find helpful assessments, and discover how traumatic experiences-even childhood and incidental traumas-can affect all aspects of your life: your relationship choices, the roles you play in them, your sense of pleasure and desire, and how you approach your career, spirituality, and interactions with others.Using the combination of mind-body interventions, cognitive behavioral theories, research, case studies, and exercises woven into each chapter of this warm-hearted, relatable book, you'll begin to address the unresolved trauma held in your body and advance your healing process. So, if you're ready to move beyond the trauma that's been holding you back in your relationships, at work, and in your spiritual practice, this guide will show you how.
How to Beat Insomnia and Sleep Problems One Step at a Time
By Kirstie Anderson
Accessible and trustworthy support for sufferers of insomnia and other sleep difficulties.Improving Access to Psychological Therapies (IAPT), initiated in 2008, has made psychological therapy more accessible to those in need. This series of self-help titles is the first to be created specifically for low-intensity IAPT and all titles follow an evidence-based cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) approach which is the treatment of choice for depression and anxiety disorders. All titles are written by authors with considerable experience in the field of CBT self-help research, training and clinical practice.This book is the perfect resource for helping you beat insomnia and sleep problems, either by yourself or in conjunction with the support of an IAPT service. The book is written in a friendly, engaging (and jargon-free!) style and encourages interactive reading through tables, illustrations and worksheets. Real-life case studies illustrate the use of each intervention and demonstrate how you can work through your sleep problems. This book will help you to understand your sleep cycle, and learn techniques to get back to a better night's sleep.
The Happiness Dictionary
By Tim Lomas
'A delightful compendium' - Evening StandardHave you ever had a feeling that you couldn't quite describe, because no English word exists for it?Indeed, without such a word, it's difficult to remember or understand the feeling, and to talk about it with other people. This applies to all aspects of life, but most of all that most sought-after of feelings, happiness, where our ability to both experience and understand it is limited by the words at our disposal. However, all is not lost. Even if English has not created a word for a specific feeling, another language probably has. These are known as 'untranslatable' words, because they lack an exact equivalent in another language. By discovering and learning these words, the boundaries of our world expand accordingly. These words allow us to give voice to feelings that we've probably experienced, but have previously lacked the ability to conceptualise. They may even allow us to encounter new feelings that we hadn't previously been aware of or enjoyed.This book will introduce you to a wealth of untranslatable words relating to happiness, from languages across the world. Reading it will enrich not just your understanding of happiness, but also the way that you experience it.
Heavens on Earth
By Michael Shermer
A scientific exploration into humanity's obsession with the afterlife and the quest for immortality from the bestselling author and sceptic Michael ShermerIn his most ambitious work yet, Shermer sets out to discover what drives humans' belief in life after death. For millennia, the awareness of our own mortality and failings has led to religions concocting comforting notions of an afterlife, of heaven and hell, utopias and dystopias, and of the perfectibility of human nature.Heavens on Earth explores the numerous manifestations of the afterlife - a place where souls might go after the death of the physical body. Religious leaders have toiled to make sense of this place that a surprisingly high percentage of people believe exists, but from which no one has ever returned to report what it is really like.This is one of the most profound questions of the human condition and has long driven philosophers and theologians to try to understand the meaning and purpose of life for mortal beings, and how we can transcend mortality. Shermer details recent scientific attempts to achieve immortality by radical life extentionists, extropians, transhumanists, cryonicists and mind-uploaders, along with utopians who have attempted to create heaven on earth. Heavens on Earth concludes with an uplifting paean to purpose and progress and what we can do in the here-and-now, whether or not there is a hereafter.
The Happiness Track
By Emma Seppälä
'This book is brilliant - read it and be prepared to reset your mood to happy. Your life won't be the same again' Daily ExpressEveryone wants to be happy and successful and yet the pursuit of both has never been more elusive. We are urged to craft careers that matter, to achieve more and waste no time on the small stuff, to be actively engaged in our communities and, while we are at it, to relish every second. Rather than thriving, all this pressure leads to declining wellbeing, relationships and, paradoxically, productivity. In The Happiness Track Emma Seppälä explains that behind our inability to achieve sustainable fulfillment are counterproductive theories of success. Success doesn't have to come at our personal expense. Drawing on the latest research into resilience, willpower, growth mindset, stress, creativity, compassion, mindfulness, gratitude training and optimism, Seppälä shows how nurturing ourselves is the most productive thing we can do to thrive professionally and personally. Filled with practical advice on how to apply these findings to your daily life, The Happiness Track is a life-changing guide to fast-tracking your success and creating an anxiety-free life.
By Candis Cayne, Katina Z. Jones
Trailblazing transgender actress, activist, and style icon Candis Cayne has spent a lifetime learning how to see herself for who she really is, and along the way has taught herself and others how to celebrate inner beauty as the perfect starting point for outer radiance. Drawing from her personal journey to self-acceptance and comprised of a unique combination of cross-barrier, body-positive wellness and style advice, Hi Gorgeous is a one-of-a-kind beauty guide that will speak to all women.Engagingly written, highly visual, and filled with "Glam on the Go" tips and exclusive interviews with Candis's team of "radiance experts," the book will cover everything from new definitions of womanhood and beauty (with elements of Candis's own journey artfully woven in) to hands-on makeup and style tips aimed at enhancing every woman's natural beauty.Hi Gorgeous! opens with a foreword by Candis's best friend, former Olympian and transgender star Caitlyn Jenner. Part I focuses on "Finding Your Natural Radiance," Part II on "Giving Them the Highlights" (makeup tips), and Part III on "Accentuating Your True Self" (fashion, accessories, putting forward your best).As Candis says, "Inner empowerment leads to owning who you really are, which creates true, radiant beauty. The rest is just the icing on the cake." This beautiful, inspiring, and informative book will empower women on their own path and help them convey their radiance to the world.
How to Speak Any Language Fluently
By Alex Rawlings
This book will give you the skills to learn to speak any language with confidence. It uses techniques that can easily be incorporated into your daily life, while making use of whatever resources you have available. Whether you are starting out with your first foreign language or wishing to add to your repetoire, you'll find a wealth of easy-to-follow advice and achievable goals. Discover how to:-Speak with greater confidence and accuracy-Effectively learn vocabulary and grammar -Use time on the internet and social media to learn a language-Read real books, websites and articles in a foreign language-Pass exams that certify your language skills
How to Beat Worry and Generalised Anxiety Disorder One Step at a Time
By Paul Farrand, Marie Chellingsworth
How to Beat Worry and Generalised Anxiety Disorder One Step at a Time is specifically addressed to low-intensity patients and follows an evidence-based cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) approach. This book is the perfect resource for helping you to beat worry or Generalised Anxiety Disorder, either by yourself or in conjunction with the support of an IAPT service. The book is written in a friendly, engaging (and jargon-free!) style and encourages interactive reading through tables, illustrations and worksheets. Real-life case studies illustrate the use of each intervention and demonstrate how you can work through your anxiety. The book teaches you effective CBT techniques for managing your worry more effectively and releasing tension through Progressive Muscle Relaxation.
How to Beat Panic Disorder One Step at a Time
By Paul Farrand, Marie Chellingsworth
How to Beat Panic Disorder One Step at a Time is specifically addressed to low-intensity patients and follows an evidence-based cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) approach.This book is the perfect resource for helping you to beat panic attacks and panic disorder, either by yourself or in conjunction with the support of an IAPT service. Written in a friendly, engaging (and jargon-free!) style, the book encourages interactive reading through tables, illustrations and worksheets. Real-life case studies illustrate the use of each intervention and demonstrate how you can work through your condition. This book will help you to understand your panic cycle, and to face your fears through gradual exposure.Paul Farrand and Marie Chellingsworth have both worked at a national level in the area of CBT self-help research and training, with past involvement in organisations and programmes as diverse as the Department of Health, British Psychological Society, Psychological Wellbeing Practitioners and the British Association for Behavioural and Cognitive Psychotherapies.
How To Represent Yourself in the Family Court
By J. Hadden, R. Davies
This book covers areas such as contact between parents and children, where a child should live and with whom, where a child should go to school, domestic violence and many other issues where agreement may not be possible. It sets out the law in a way you will be able to understand and apply. and contains a wealth of practical tips to ensure that you present yourself and your case well throughout proceedings. It will guide you in drafting statements, addressing the court, answering questions during cross-examination and dealing with professionals at court.
How to Break Up With Anyone
By Jamye Waxman
Not all relationships are made to last forever. Sometimes what starts as a beautiful friendship or productive partnership turns toxic, or one-sided, or unhealthy - and the best solution for both parties is to end it. In How to Break Up With Anyone , relationship expert Jamye Waxman has written a much-needed guide to every step of a non-romantic breakup. Drawing from her own experiences, Jamye provides strategies for disengaging from a friend, family member, community, or even former version of oneself, addressing both practical and emotional concerns. While ending a relationship can be painful, Jamye's positive message focuses on the ultimately liberating aspects of putting unhealthy relationships to rest.Chapters include:Breaking Up Versus Taking a BreakBest Friends Forever No MoreBreaking Up With FamilyKissing Community GoodbyeRelabeling Your Sexuality and GenderBreaking Up With Your CareerBreaking Up With Anyone ElseBeing Broken Up With How to Break Up With Anyone provides the tools for anyone to initiate a breakup, the encouragement to get through it, and the wisdom to recognize that they don't have to settle for anything less than productive, healthy relationships. Covering a variety of relationships, How to Break Up With Anyone is a timeless resource for people of all ages.
How The Body Knows Its Mind
By Sian Beilock
If you've ever gestured wildly with your hands in order to coax a word from your memory, or if you've sat up straighter in a meeting to feel more confident and alert, then you already know some of the ways the body can make an impact on the mind. But what if that's just the tip of the iceberg? Recent research shows that the extent to which the body affects the brain is greater than we'd ever imagined. Now How the Body Knows Its Mind reveals extraordinary ways you can use your body to improve your mind and performance in all areas of life.We often think of the brain as the master control centre - interpreting experiences, deciding what to do, and pulling the levers of the body. Sian Beilock, a leading expert on the brain science behind human performance and professor in the psychology department at the University of Chicago, turns our understanding of the mind upside down in How the Body Knows Its Mind.Your brain doesn't make that much of a distinction between what happens in your body and what happens in your mind. In fact, our bodies actually hack our brains. The way we move affects our thoughts, our decisions, and our preferences, and kids absorb more when they use their bodies as a learning tool. Called "embodied cognition," this new science illuminates the power of the body and its physical surroundings to shape how we think, feel, and behave: pacing around the room can enhance creativity; walking in nature boosts concentration skills; Botox users experience less depression; fit children score higher on tests in school.From the tricks used by advertisers to the ways body language can improve your memory to how to master public speaking, Beilock explains a wealth of fascinating interconnections between mind and body and shows how mastering them can make you happier, safer, and more successful.
How a Little Planning Beats a Lot of Firefighting
By Fergus O’Connell
If you've ever been told that you 'have to do more with less' or 'work smarter not harder' and wondered what these things are supposed to mean, this book gives you the answer. It shows how a little planning - normally thought of as being the preserve of large undertakings, great construction projects or huge sporting events or military offensives - will indeed enable you to get more done with less effort.
How to be Confident and Assertive at Work
By Conrad Potts, Suzanne Potts
This book will restore your confidence and help you to be more assertive and command more respect at work. It will enable you to:- Be valued for who you are- Ask for what you are entitled to- Say 'no' when you have the right to do so- Have your opinions and ideas heard and respected- Stand up for yourself- Handle difficult situations calmly and successfullyIt also provides a step-by-step guide to how to deal with some of the most common situations that you are likely to face during your working life - including asking for a pay rise!¬