The Self in Practice
By Louise McHugh, Ian Stewart, Priscilla Almada
The self plays an integral role in human motivation, cognition, and social identity. A must-have addition to any acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) practitioner's library, The Self in Practice translates the ACT model's most difficult-yet essential-process into easy-to-apply steps and user-friendly language. Every client who partakes in ACT must identify a self as part of their treatment, and clinicians often report that observing the self is the most difficult of all six core ACT processes. This is because it's so hard for people to shed preconceived notions of "who they really are," and negative perceptions of the self can lead to feelings of low self-worth that stand in the way of treatment.Problems with the self arise when clients orient themselves in the world and learn to relate to others, but these problems can vary considerably. For example, some clients may have deficits in developing a strong sense of self in the first place-particularly if they are diagnosed with autism spectrum conditions (ASC). Depressed clients or those with borderline personality disorder (BPD) may develop a skewed, negative sense of self, and those with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) may develop an inflated sense of self.With this unique road map, you will learn to apply the complex theory of the self into everyday practice, and help all clients develop empathy, compassion, and flexible perspective taking-leading to better treatment outcomes and better lives for clients.
The Gift of Recovery
By Rebecca E. Williams, Julie S. Kraft
If you're recovering from addiction, The Gift of Recovery offers quick, in-the-moment tips and tricks to help you cope with daily stress and stay firmly on the path to wellness. With this gentle, easy-to-use guide, you'll learn how to navigate relationships, take time for self-care, and build a mindful, sustainable, and joyful recovery.Deciding to get help for addiction is the first step toward recovery. But addiction recovery doesn't happen all at once - it's something that must be worked for, every day. Sometimes, it will be easy. When things are going well, you may not be tempted to give in to your cravings. But when life is stressful, you'll need strategies to help you cope. Written by the authors of The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction, this on-the-go mindfulness guide offers fifty-two powerful and effective meditations to help you manage the stress, depression, and strong emotions that can get in the way of a full and lasting recovery. You'll also find skills based in cognitive behavior therapy (CBT), dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT), and acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) to help you stay grounded, as well as links to online resources.Deciding to overcome an addiction can feel like leaving a relationship. It's hard and sometimes lonely - but it is truly an act of courage. This book will help guide you as you continue making courageous steps toward peace, joy, and fulfillment.
Suffering Is Optional
By Gail Brenner
If you struggle with self-defeating thoughts and feelings of inadequacy, you are not alone. We've all felt inadequate, believing that we're broken or otherwise unworthy. But this doesn't have to be a life sentence. Presenting four guiding principles and five core practices based in deep spiritual wisdom, Suffering Is Optional reveals how to liberate yourself from the prison of false self-beliefs holding you back.Millions of people feel that they are not good enough. They may struggle every day, seeing themselves as deficient, pathetic, or damaged, and destined to fail. They convince themselves they aren't worthy of love or respect, and view themselves with self-hatred. When you believe and cling to painful, self-defeating thoughts like "I can't do it," "It won't work," or "I'm a loser," they become your personal reality-and the more you repeat them, the more you believe them, until they come to define you. Sadly, these limiting self-definitions lead to even more pain and suffering: hidden shame, problems in relationships, opportunities lost, and a life not fully lived.In Suffering Is Optional, clinical psychologist Gail Brenner offers practical ways to discover that you are not what your thoughts tell you you are. Rather than showing you how to become a better version of yourself, this book goes straight to the heart of the problem-that you've mistakenly identified yourself as broken and undeserving-to guide you out of these limiting thoughts and into an investigation of the nature of reality that ultimately liberates you from your suffering. With these exercises, experiments, reflections, practices, and inspiring stories, you'll have a spiritual solution to your personal problem of limitation and self-sabotage.Using the four guiding principles and five core practices presented in this book-including turning toward direct experience, grounding in aware presence, losing interest in thoughts, welcoming feelings, and the sacred return to presence-you'll be able to shed your false identity and wake up to the inherent peace and happiness that is available to you in any given moment.
The Worry Workbook for Kids
By Muniya Khanna, Deborah Roth Ledley
Bring fun and adventure back into your child's life. In The Worry Workbook for Kids, two respected psychologists offer fun, action-based activities grounded in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to help your child move past fears of uncertainty, set and accomplish goals, and-most importantly-enjoy being a kid. Today's kids face intense pressures at school, with friends, and in life. But one of the most prevalent causes of worry in children is the fear of the unknown. Whether they are starting at a new school, trying out for a new sport, or going to a sleepover-for many kids who worry, it can be difficult moving from "What if?" to "Why not?" and trying new things. Sound familiar?Written for children ages seven to twelve, this engaging workbook offers evidence-based cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) tools to help kids embrace uncertainty and actually change their thoughts and behaviors by taking action-which will help bring adventure, fun, and freedom back into their lives! The practices in this workbook can be used anytime, anyplace, to help kids put a stop to worry before worry takes over.Childhood is a precious time that goes by so quickly, and chronic worrying can take a hefty toll both mentally and physically. Teaching kids how to deal with stress early will set them up for a lifetime of happiness and success. This workbook can help you do just that.
Maybe It's You
By Lauren Handel Zander
What's standing in the way of your best life? It's not your boss, your mother or your metabolism. Maybe it's you.Lauren Handel Zander knows that people are hungry for results-oriented, no-nonsense advice. Someone to tell it to them straight. To give them not only inspiration to change, but a step-by-step plan to get it done. That's what she's done for tens of thousands of clients at Handel Group with her take-no-prisoners brand of radical personal accountability - a proven program that has worked for bestselling authors, top businesspeople, award-winning artists . . . and now, you.In Maybe It's You, you will finally and forever learn to:*Cut the crap about being 'true to yourself', when you don't have a clue who that is.*Tell the truth and nothing but your truth. *Manage the head you call home.*Get good at keeping promises to yourself.*Find your sense of humour. Yes, it's missing.Whether you want to find love, succeed at work, fix a fractured relationship, or lose weight, Maybe It's You will offer a road map to help you finally get there.
Tell Me What You Want
By Justin J. Lehmiller
'Reading [Tell Me What You Want] may be the best thing you ever do for your sex life, your relationships and your self-acceptance' - Geoffrey Miller, author of The Mating Mind, Spent, and MateWhat do we really want when it comes to sex? How can we break the barriers that prevent us from communicating about our desires? Justin J. Lehmiller, a leading expert on human sexuality and author of the popular blog Sex and Psychology, has made it his career's ambition to answer these questions. Based on his monumental two-year study of sexual fantasies involving more than 4,000 people from all walks of life, Tell Me What You Want offers an unprecedented look into our fantasy worlds and what they reveal about us. It will help you to understand your own sexual desires and how to attain them within your relationships, but also to appreciate why your partner may have sexual proclivities that are so different from your own. Appreciating the incredible diversity of human sexual desire and why this diversity exists in the first place can help you to overcome distress, anxiety and shame about your own sexual fantasies; ultimately enhancing your sex life. Breaking down barriers to discussing sexual fantasies and allowing them to become a part your sexual reality is the pathway to maintaining more satisfying relationships.
Getting Things Done for Teens
By David Allen, Mike Williams, Mark Wallace
'As a GTD devotee for nearly two decades, I know how these principles have transformed my own work life. So I'm thrilled that David Allen is bringing his brilliance to the most important audience of all: Our young people. Today's teenagers face a tsunami of distractions and pressures. This practical and powerful book will ease their stress and focus their minds in ways that will last a lifetime' - Daniel H. Pink, New York Times bestselling author of When and Drive'If you learn these techniques, they'll pay off for decades' - Charles Duhigg, New York Times bestselling author of The Power of HabitThe most interconnected generation in history is navigating unimaginable amounts of social pressure, both in personal and online interactions. Very little time, focus or education is being spent teaching and coaching this generation how to navigate the unprecedented amount of 'stuff' entering their lives each day. How do we help the overloaded and distracted next generation deal with increasing complexity and help them not only survive, but thrive? How do we help them experience stress-free productivity and gain momentum and confidence? How do we help them achieve autonomy, so that they can confidently take on whatever comes their way? Getting Things Done for Teens will train the next generation to overcome these obstacles and flourish by coaching them to use the internationally renowned Getting Things Done methodology. In its two editions, David Allen's classic has been translated into dozens of languages and sold over a million copies, establishing itself as one of the most influential business books of its era, and the ultimate book on personal organization. Getting Things Done for Teens will adapt its lessons by offering a fresh take on the GTD methodology, framing life as a game to play and GTD as the game pieces and strategies to play your most effective game. It presents GTD in a highly visual way and frames the methodology as not only as a system for being productive in school, but as a set of tools for everyday life. Getting Things Done for Teens is the how-to manual for the next generation - a strategic guidebook for creating the conditions for a fruitful and effective future.
Overcoming Grief 2nd Edition
By Sue Morris
Reassuring and helpful strategies to guide you through your griefGrief is a natural reaction to loss, but in some cases it can be devastating, causing a loss of direction which can impact our relationships and work.This practical guide will help you to regain a sense of control and offers tried and tested strategies for adjusting to life without your spouse, friend or family member. Relentless grief can cause a host of physical problems, including difficulties eating, disrupted sleep and becoming over-reliant on alcohol. It can also lead to serious emotional and psychological problems such as depression, anxiety, panic attacks and complicated grief. But techniques from cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) can help.This self-help book covers:· Coping with the unexpected or long-anticipated death of a loved one· Establishing a routine and tackling avoidance of difficult issues· Practical concerns such as making decisions and dealing with birthdays and anniversaries· Returning to work and planning a new future OVERCOMING self-help guides use clinically-proven techniques to treat long-standing and disabling conditions, both psychological and physical. Many guides in the Overcoming series are recommended under the Reading Well Books on Prescription scheme.Series Editor: Professor Peter Cooper
Helping Your Child with a Physical Health Condition
By Mandy Bryon, Penny Titman
Has your child received a medical diagnosis for a long term illness or health condition?If so, this can be a stressful time for you both. You may have noticed changes in your relationship and behaviour towards your child. For example many parents feel that their child needs more understanding, is more fragile or is struggling to cope physically or emotionally. Your discipline parenting style may change if you feel that they 'suffer enough' already. Parents often find their confidence and judgement gets knocked off track in the early stages following a diagnosis, but given time and support, they do adapt and develop resilience in themselves and in their child.This book can help you with: · Emotional support for managing difference and dealing with difficult behaviour· Practical suggestions for easing hospital anxiety or navigating feeding problems· Advice on what to say and when to your child about their illness· How to ensure you don't neglect yourself or the rest of your familyWritten by experts in childhood illness, this step-by-step guide is for any parent who feels isolated or lacking in support.Helping Your Child is a series for parents and caregivers to support children through developmental difficulties, both psychological and physical. Each guide uses clinically proven techniques.Series editors: Professor Peter Cooper and Dr Polly Waite
The Courage Habit
By Kate Swoboda
What kind of life would you live if you didn't allow your fears to hold you back? The Courage Habit offers a powerful program to help you conquer your inner critic, work toward your highest aspirations, and build a courageous community.Are your fears preventing you from living the life you truly want? Do you ever wish that you had a better job, lived in a different city, or had more authentic and nurturing relationships? Many people believe that they would do more, accomplish more, and feel more fulfilled if only they could rid themselves of that fearful inner voice that constantly whispers, "you can't do it."In The Courage Habit, certified life coach Kate Swoboda offers a unique program based in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) to help you act courageously in spite of fear. By identifying your fear triggers, releasing yourself from your past experiences, and acting on what you truly value, you can make courage a daily habit.Using a practical four-part program, you'll learn to understand the emotions that arise when fears are triggered, and to pause and evaluate your emotional state before you act. You'll discover how to listen without attachment to the self-defeating messages of your inner critic, understand the critic's function, and implement respectful boundaries so that your inner voice no longer controls your behavior. You'll reframe self-limiting life narratives that can-without conscious awareness-dictate your day-to-day decisions. And finally, you'll nurture more authentic connections with family, friends, and community in order to find support and reinforce the life changes you're making.If you feel like something is holding you back from landing your dream job, moving to a new city, having a satisfying love relationship, or simply taking advantage of all life has to offer - and if you have a sneaking suspicion that that something is you - then this one-of-a-kind guide will show you how to finally break free from self-doubt and start living your best life.
When Spirit Leaps
By Bonnie Greenwell
Whether it happens all at once or gradually over time, spiritual awakening is an experience that may be accompanied by great insight, ecstatic bliss, or a mystical infusion of light, love, and vision. But it can be an overwhelming experience, too, leaving those to whom it's occurred searching for answers and understanding. Written by a transpersonal psychologist and non-dual teacher, this book will help you understand the phenomenon of spiritual awakening, and provide guidance and support for you on your spiritual journey.At the heart of most spiritual traditions is the understanding that we are one with all of existence. This realization, also known as spiritual awakening or spiritual emergence, can occur spontaneously, after years of spiritual practice, or through many other portals. Although awakening is often considered a purely positive experience, many people are not prepared for the ramifications of such a life-altering event. When your perception of yourself and reality has been altered, you may find yourself with more questions than answers. Where can you turn?Based on over thirty years of case studies, as well as the author's own experiences, When Spirit Leaps explores the why and what of spiritual awakening, revealing how this phenomenon occurs across all traditions, and exploring the various ways it can happen. Including discussions on kundalini energy, meditation, yoga and qigong, breathwork, near-death experiences, and much more, this inspirational book offers companionship and practical solutions to common challenges along the spiritual path of awakening.With this book as your guide, you'll gain a deep understanding of the process and different portals of awakening, and find comfort and support in the real-life stories of those who have experienced this shift in consciousness and faced its challenges. Most importantly, you'll learn how you can embody this awakening and live joyfully and effectively without attachment to a personal sense of self, but as the oneness with all that is your true nature. No matter where you are on your spiritual journey, this book will help you along the way.
Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other
By Lauren J. Behrman, Jeffrey Zimmerman
Hate your ex but love your kids? If so, this much-needed guide offers practical tips and strategies to help you manage intense emotions, deal with shame and blame, and create a peaceful, loving environment for your children. Let's face it-divorce is tough. In a high-conflict divorce, your ex may attempt to undermine your relationship with your children, blame you for the failed marriage, and be hostile toward you in general. Unfortunately, this negativity can affect your kids, too. You need to break the cycle of rage and conflict now, for their sake. This book can help. Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other offers powerful skills based in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) and values-based parenting to help you both take control of your emotions. You'll develop tools to help you identify cycles of conflict, as well as strategies for breaking these cycles before they get out of hand. You'll also learn to effectively communicate with one another and your children in a way that is healthy and productive. If you're going through a high-conflict divorce, you need real tools to help you manage the pain and anger that can follow.This book will give you the skills you need to go from ex to co-parent, and start rebuilding your-and your child's-life.
By Kenneth Paul Rosenberg
What the latest science tells us about fidelity, infidelity, memory, the brain's reward systems, love, and sexIn both genders and across age groups, infidelity is on the rise. People often cheat in a haze of delusion, believing that it will bring them real love, help them have better sex, lift their spirits, and boost their sagging self-esteem; however, very often, cheating wrecks relationships and erodes self-esteem. Hundreds of people have sought Dr. Rosenberg's help as a psychiatrist to help them stop cheating and repair the damage caused by their affairs. In Infidelity: Why Men and Women Cheat, Dr. Rosenberg explains what draws men and women to cheat and what they can do about it. He explains the three types of cheating: emotional, virtual, and physical; why they're so prevalent; and how to survive when either you or your partner are drawn to stray. Infidelity takes an objective and evidence-based approach to why men and women today cheat, drawing from the latest research in neuroscience and from Rosenberg's own clinical practice to reveal the mechanics of the sexual brain. And through concrete rules, Rosenberg guides couples on how to prevent cheating, stop it from progressing, and repair the damage caused by an affair. Infidelity provides key insights that show a couple how to find their true sexual and romantic potential and advocates honesty, trust, and integrity - the fundamentals of love.