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Just As You Are

A Teen’s Guide to SelfAcceptance and Lasting SelfEsteem

By Michelle Skeen and Kelly Skeen

  • Paperback
  • £12.99

"Stop comparing yourself to others-you're special just as you are!" That's the message psychologist Michelle Skeen and her daughter, Kelly Skeen, instill in teen readers with this unique self-help guide.

Stop comparing yourself to others-you're special just as you are! In this fun, practical guide, you'll learn how to silence your nit-picky inner critic, cultivate self-compassion, and discover what really matters to you.

If you're like many teens, you probably feel pressured to live up to the impossible standards set by our culture, the media, and even by your peers. After all, everyone wants perfect hair, a perfect body, cool friends, and good grades. But while it's okay to strive to be your best, it's also easy to get caught up in a never-ending comparison game that can feed your inner critic and rob you of your happiness. So, how can you break free from negative self-criticism and learn to appreciate your strengths?

In Just As You Are, psychologist Michelle Skeen and her daughter, Kelly Skeen, offer simple tips to help you overcome feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness, stop comparing yourself to others, and be more open and accepting of all aspects of who you are. You'll also learn how to be more aware of your thoughts and feelings in the moment using powerful mindfulness tools, and build a plan of action for the future based on your values.

Sometimes it's hard to see yourself with clarity and kindness. With this important guide, you'll learn to move past your faults, celebrate your true strengths, and discover what really matters in your life. What are you waiting for?

Biographical Notes

Michelle Skeen (Author)
Michelle Skeen, PsyD, is a therapist who lives and works in San Francisco, CA. She has provided brief and long-term therapy for individuals and couples by utilizing schema and mindfulness-based approaches to address interpersonal issues, weight management, anger, depression, anxiety, disabilities, and trauma. She is author of Love Me, Don't Leave Me and coauthor of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for Interpersonal Problems. Skeen is also coauthor of Communication Skills for Teens with her daughter, Kelly Skeen. She hosts a weekly radio show called Relationships 2.0 with Dr. Michelle Skeen on KCAA Radio 1050 AM and iHeart Radio. To find out more, visit her website at www.michelleskeen.com.

Kelly Skeen (Author)
Kelly Skeen is a student at Georgetown University in Washington DC. She is also coauthor of Communication Skills for Teens with her mother Michelle Skeen, PsyD.

  • Other details

  • ISBN: 9781626255906
  • Publication date: 30 Aug 2018
  • Page count: 200
  • Imprint: New Harbinger
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