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Faking It

The Lies Women Tell about Sex--And the Truths They Reveal

By Lux Alptraum

  • Paperback
  • £12.99

From Out of the Binders co-founder Lux Alptraum, a controversial look at women, sex, and lying--why myths about women's deceit persist, how they came to be, and ultimately why we must trust women

When we talk about sex, we talk about women as mysterious, deceptive, and - above all - untrustworthy. Women lie about orgasms. Women lie about being virgins. Women lie about who got them pregnant, about whether they were raped, about how many people they've had sex with and what sort of experiences they've had - the list goes on and on. Over and over we're reminded that, on dates, in relationships, and especially in the bedroom, women just aren't telling the truth. But where does this assumption come from? Are women actually lying about sex, or does society just think we are?

In Faking It, Lux Alptraum tackles the topic of seemingly dishonest women; investigating whether women actually lie, and what social situations might encourage deceptions both great and small. Using her experience as a sex educator and former CEO of Fleshbot (the foremost blog on sexuality), first-hand interviews with sexuality experts and everyday women, Alptraum raises important questions: are lying women all that common - or is the idea of the dishonest woman a symptom of male paranoia? Are they trying to please men, or just trying to trick and trap them? And what affect does all this dishonesty - whether real or imagined - have on women's self-images, social status, and safety? Through it all, Alptraum posits that even if women are lying, we're doing it for very good reason--to protect ourselves ("My boyfriend will be here any minute," to a creep who won't go away, for one), and in situations where society has given us no other choice.

Biographical Notes

Lux Alptraum is a writer and producer dedicated to improving our conversation about sex. Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, New York Magazine, SELF, Vice, Cosmopolitan, and Hustler; and helped shape Fusion's Peabody-nominated Sex.Right.Now. with Cleo Stiller. She lives in New York City.

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  • ISBN: 9781580057653
  • Publication date: 13 Dec 2018
  • Page count: 256
  • Imprint: Seal Press
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