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Beyond Birds and Bees

Bringing Home a New Message to Our Kids About Sex, Love, and Equality

By Bonnie J. Rough

  • Paperback
  • £12.99

A provocative exploration of how Americans teach our children about sex, with practical takeaways from the author's research, and her experiences observing Dutch parenting while living in Amsterdam

Bonnie Rough was a new mother grappling with many typical concerns of raising a daughter: how to inspire her to push past stereotypes, how to teach her to have a healthy attitude towards her body and her sexuality. Then her husband's job relocated the family to Amsterdam, where Rough quickly witnessed the free, uninhibited, and egalitarian sexual attitudes of the Dutch--where nudity isn't frowned upon and parents hope their children have favorable sexual experiences more than fearing their activity.

In Better Than Birds and Bees, Rough describes how to implement the easygoing, surprisingly low-risk European attitude, reflecting on her experiences with her daughters. With careful research and anecdotal discoveries, Rough outlines ways for American parents to navigate a culture with dismally little formal sexual education, showing how creating healthy sexual attitudes reverberates with every aspect of society, shaping not only childhood experiences but gender misconceptions and inequality through adulthood.

Biographical Notes

Bonnie J. Rough is the author of The Girls, Alone, and Carrier: Untangling the Danger in My DNA. An award-winning essayist and memoirist with an MFA in Nonfiction Writing from the University of Iowa, her essays have appeared in numerous publications. She lives with her husband and two daughters in Seattle, and makes frequent trips back to their former home in the Netherlands.

  • Other details

  • ISBN: 9781580057394
  • Publication date: 11 Oct 2018
  • Page count: 272
  • Imprint: Seal Press
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