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    • ISBN:9781844087297
    • Publication date:03 Jul 2014

Our Cheating Hearts

Love and Loyalty, Lust and Lies

By Kate Figes

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Kate Figes, whose last book Couples drew back the curtain on relationships, now turns her gaze to a subject that will fascinate many - a riveting, revealing and shocking book on infidelity.

By the author known and respected for her acclaimed books on relationships.

Most of us manage to be monogamous, most of the time, but who cannot imagine themselves committing the 'crime' of adultery? Does being 'faithful' mean the same to everyone? Why DO people have affairs?


Using real life testimony alongside the most current research, Our Cheating Hearts looks at the big questions around love and commitment. It lifts taboos, asks the tough questions and shows how in our progressive time monogamy has become the new ideal.


Some people manage monogamy. For the countless others that don't, Our Cheating Hearts opens the debate and provides the honest approach that's essential.

Biographical Notes

Kate Figes is the author of four previous works of non-fiction: The Big Fat Bitch Book, Life After Birth, The Terrible Teens - What Every Parent Needs to Know and, most recently, Couples: How We Make Love Last, as well as two novels.

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  • Imprint: Virago
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