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    • Publication date:02 Feb 2012

Couples

How We Make Love Last

By Kate Figes

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* An intelligent, accessible and important book on a topic of perennial interest - for those about to embark on the journey, for those already in the throes of it and for those who have been married for many years.

These days, many of us enjoy unrivalled freedom and equality when it comes to choosing and building a relationship. Yet new myths about how to live and love compromise that happiness.

Kate Figes argues that, whether married or cohabiting, gay or straight, remarried or a couple living apart, the quality of our intimate relationship is fundamental to our long-term health and happiness, because our need for commitment and love hasn't changed.

This is not a handbook. There are no easy 'Mars and Venus' universal recipes for success, because relationships are far too complicated, individual and important for easy answers. But learning how others sustain lifelong love, and what really goes on in other people's lives can help us to understand our own partnerships and take responsibility for making them work. Couples is an incisive and important look at how we can learn to make love endure.

Biographical Notes

Kate Figes is the author of three works of non-fiction: The Big Fat Bitch Book, Life After Birth, The Terrible Teens - What Every Parent Needs to Know and two novels.

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  • Publication date: 21 Jan 2010
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