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    • ISBN:9780349405759
    • Publication date:05 Feb 2015

Why Can't I Meditate?

how to get your mindfulness practice on track

By Nigel Wellings

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Why Can't I Meditate? is essential reading for anyone who is struggling to meditate. It provides practical advice to help would-be meditators understand and overcome the obstacles that prevent mindfulness from becoming an integral part of their life.

There are now thousands of students completing Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction, Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy and other mindfulness programmes around the world. However, on completion many will struggle to continue or will stop, with the intention of starting again in the future. Why Can't I Meditate? addresses this problem. It combines accounts by new meditators of their struggles, and successes, with insights from a wide variety of the most accomplished teachers, representing every school of mindfulness teaching. It identifies, investigates and offers many practical solutions to get our mindfulness unstuck and firmly establish a regular practice. This is a book for anyone who has sat on their meditation seat or cushion and wondered whether they should go on.

Contributors include: Stephen Batchelor, Rebecca Crane, Christina Feldman, Geshe Tashi Tsering, Choji Lama Rabsang, Willem Kuyken, Tsoknyi Rinpoche, Franklin Sills, Philippa Vick and Martin Wells.

Biographical Notes

Nigel Wellings is a psychoanalytic psychotherapist who works within a contemplative perspective. Initially training with the Association for Group and Individual Psychotherapy (AGIP) he later became a member of the Association for Independent Psychotherapists (AIP) and has also served as Director of Training at the Centre for Transpersonal Psychology. He is a founder member of the Forum for Contemplative Studies and a facilitator on the Bath and Bristol Mindfulness Courses. He is the author, with Elizabeth Wilde-McCormick, of several books, including Nothing to Lose: Psychotherapy, Buddhism and Living Life.

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Why Can't I Meditate? is, as far as I know, the first in-depth and pragmatic analysis of a key issue that bedevils many people who undertake the practice of meditation. It is not at all uncommon for someone to encounter a deep resistance to meditation even though they are sincerely committed to it. This important study is an invaluable handbook that provides practical guidance and advice for anyone who strives to understand and overcome the obstacles that prevent meditation from becoming an integral part of one's life. — Stephen Batchelor, author of 'Buddhism Without Beliefs' and 'Confession of a Buddhist Atheist'
.... insightful and helpful. I really like the discussion of the different selves within us and how one can be in conflict with another and that people who are fearful of unknown parts of themselves, their shadow, are going to struggle with compassion, becoming caught up in conflicts and struggles in contrast to observing them as 'nature's mind at work'. — Professor Paul Gilbert, author of 'The Compassionate Mind'
I am very happy to finally see someone writing about why people can't meditate. I've known Nigel for many years; he's a sincere practitioner who has been thinking about how to untangle the blockages in the human mind for some time now. We had a lot of discussion together about the ideas presented here and I think his book will be very useful. It's helpful to know the underlying causes of meditation problems - this book shows how to work with them. — Tsoknyi Rinpoche, author of 'Open Heart, Open Mind'
This book provides a rich, clear and compassionate account of the difficulties and barriers meditators may encounter on their path. It addresses so many of the everything-you-wanted-to-know-but-were-afraid-to-ask questions which eveyone who meditates runs into. But it also shows how powerful and healthy meditation can be. This book is an inspiration both for people who are interested in meditation but have never done it, as well as for more experienced meditators. — Professor Bas Verplanken, Head of Department of Psychology, Bath University
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