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And Now We Have Everything

On Motherhood Before I Was Ready

By Meaghan O'Connell

  • Hardback
  • £20.00

Operating Instructions for the Millennial set: a fiercely honest account of becoming a mother before you're "ready."

Operating Instructions for the Millennial set: a fiercely honest account of becoming a mother before you're "ready."

If you feel totally alienated by the cutesy, sanctimonious tone of the "motherhood industrial complex," this is the book for you.

After getting accidentally pregnant in her twenties, Meaghan O'Connell realized that brutally honest, agenda-less resources on the emotional and existential impact of motherhood were nowhere to be found. In And Now We Have Everything, she offers a brave new perspective on the transition into motherhood. With her dark humor and a hair-trigger B.S. detector, Meaghan addresses the pervasive imposter syndrome that comes with unplanned pregnancy, the second adolescence of a changing postpartum body, the myth that giving birth is a "magical" experience, the problem of sex post-baby, the strange push to make 'mom friends', and the fascinating weirdness of stepping into a new, not-yet-comfortable identity.

Addressing the fears and anxieties of Millennial women in an unflinchingly frank, funny, and visceral way, Meaghan fills a void in the discussion on motherhood, identity, what it means to be ready.

Biographical Notes

Meaghan O'Connell's work has appeared in New YorkMagazine, The Awl, and Longreads, where she is a contributor. Previously, she has been a columnist for The Cut, a co-editor of The Billfold, and an early employee at the tech startups Tumblr and Kickstarter. And Now We Have Everything is her first book. She lives with her family in Portland, OR.

  • Other details

  • ISBN: 9780316393843
  • Publication date: 14 Jun 2018
  • Page count: 272
  • Imprint: Little, Brown US
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